I have been thinking a lot lately about how life changes and relationships evolve or evaporate. How some people I thought I would forever be closely connected to have drifted so far out of my life that I know almost nothing about them. That people I thought would be interested in my children’s lives just aren’t at all and how others that I barely know seem deeply interested in the wellbeing of me and my family.
I had a friend tell me today that she knew I wasn’t going to listen to her so instead she wanted to try and make me feel confident in the way I do things. Who says that?? Strong supportive confident people do! I am thinking that as I get older I won’t just settle for what is there, it’s important to have a good support system and long relationships but it’s also important to know when to let go and be ok with that.
There is a saying that a friend is there for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. I think it's good advice that you give to not over-invest in the relationship when it's clear you aren't getting anything back. Isn't is amazing when you find women who should have been your sisters but are sisters in spirit?
Darla, I have never heard that saying but it's so true! I think some people are better at things like listening so when times are tough they are better friends and some people are just fun but maybe not the kind of person that can be there to listen.
I have found too that as I get older I just want different things from a relationship then I wanted or needed before.
Oh and I LOVE sisters in spirit!!
Well stated, Sarah. I am sure there are some PSMM moms that are included in your new support system. 🙂
i agree with Darla, I heard that saying when I was in my 20s and I learned how to handle it. Currently, I realize that I collect toxic relationships and I need to get out of those.