I had a question about my 4 year olds worksheet from daycare. That is all, just a question. My question blew up, it blew up 4 years at a daycare facility that I thought my kids would spend 5 years at each. It blew up a friendship I had made with a woman who turned out I wasn’t really friends with. It blew up because a 20-year-old teacher was too defensive to explain to me how the worksheets worked in her class. It blew up because why is a 20-year-old teaching my 4-year-old how to write when we pay enough for a certified teacher.
I called Derek’s teacher and asked how the process of worksheets went because I saw his had a lot of errors but no teacher marking so I had no idea if/how they went over them. Instead of an explanation I was told “Derek doesn’t pay attention during worksheets” ok he’s 4 so how do you get him to refocus “I don’t, none of them listen, they are so bad when I try to go over worksheets” BAD, BAD…You are saying 4 year olds are bad. I pay half my salary to your institution and it’s not to hear that my son and his entire class are all BAD. I then, in a fit of rage sunk down to her level and let her know that her weekly reports never mention that Derek doesn’t listen. They all say such positive things about him yet it’s like a joke because her awful grammar and spelling embarrasses me! OK, I was immature but I couldn’t help myself!
And so the end began….In the weeks since this happened Derek was moved up to the next level class at our insistence. My friend, the director, has not spoken a single word to me. Even when I finally gave our notice via email she has not responded. I have taken a whole new look at what I thought was a wonderful establishment. I now see corners cut to save money, teachers sent home the moment the student/teacher ratio allows and teenagers running classes. These teenager don’t have the background in early childhood education or the knowledge that being a mom brings. They don’t know how to control a class, instead they call them BAD. I see teachers that speak such broken english that I can’t understand them so how on earth is my 22 month old supposed to learn her ABC’s from them? A director that gossips about the parents and her staff, holds meetings to teach everyone about a “cleanse” and doesn’t even call a parent, that was a friend, when there is an issue with a teacher.
In the past few months I have had friends leave and their kids moved on. I kept making excuses as to why we couldn’t go. I know the real reason is because we don’t want our kids to be sad. I know it sounds ridiculous, kids are resilient but Derek has a best buddy at his school. He loves him. I cry thinking of Derek walking into school and the welcome he gets now. He is like a mini-celebrity. Hayley is tough, she is a mommy’s girl to such an extreme. She is addicted to me, she clings, cries and calls for me all the time. At her daycare she has friends and loves her ladies, this makes me cry. I feel I am ripping her away from her security. Kids are resilient though right? They will adjust, even if they are stubborn? Derek will make more friends and Hayley will love her new ladies. Otherwise the alternative is staying on the ship while it’s sinking. Staying at a place I can’t be involved. Shutting my mouth and taking everything in. I can’t do that, I can’t just sit back. Thursday is their last day….Thursday is going to be so bittersweet. I emailed today to tell the owner that the kids won’t be in on Friday….NOTHING….4 years, so much vested and nothing…MOVING ON….