I will NOT lean in.
I will NOT #BanBossy
What I will do, is continue on in my routine of being a full-time working mother of two. I will continue to praise my children, to love them, to teach them right from wrong and I don’t need some high powered executive offering up her “advice” on how to do it all!
Lean In is fabulous for women who don’t have children.
Lean In is amazing for women who have the financial means to be assured their children are well taken care of while they are busy leaning in. However, those women have to be ok with other people raising their children while they are working.
How does Lean In help the working mom that needs to pay the bills, make dinner, give the kids a bath, get them bed and start it all over the next day? All of this with little sleep and feelings of guilt because they “hurried up” their children to get out the door so they could get to work somewhat on time in order to make the money!
It’s fabulous to tell women to lean in when you’re powerful enough in your company that you can work from home as needed so you’re at least physically present. It’s wonderful to tell women they have the power and can be all they can be but my problem with leaning in is that a) I don’t want to b) who would take care of my children and c) will it hurt my children in the long run if mommy wasn’t around for dinners, games, stories, hugs, playtime and more?
Above all else, I am a mother. I made a conscience decision to have my children. The moments they were born my entire universe shifted to make them the center. Unless you are a mother you can not comment on children being the center of ones universe. If you are a mother and you don’t get it, then I’m sorry for you
Yes….my point here is hoo-rah for Sheryl Sandberg! She has a big job, big bank account and wants to empower women. Does she want me to ban bossy when my daughter is being bossy? How about when my son is being bossy? Is it ok then because nobody seems to worry about hurting his ego! Does she want to watch my kids when they are sick with a virus for a week so I can lean in? She better get prepared to stay for two weeks though because once that first kid gets over the virus the second one usually gets it. If she’s here I can clear my conscience of my kids that are sick, for the 5th time in a row in one season, and go off to work to lean in. I can ignore the fact that my babies only want their mommy when they are sick. Nope, sorry, that just isn’t me. That just isn’t any of the mothers I know that are JUST TRYING TO GET BY without screwing up our kids!!
It’s ok though, I’m NOT leaning in like Sheryl said!
It’s easy to say “lean in” when you have the monetary support to work things out and the ability to override mom guilt in order to get a job done. In my world the most important job that I choose is my children.
Am I letting my gender down because I don’t choose to aspire to be more than a 9-5 working mom that only works for additional income. Yes, there are people that work just to make money. There are people that work, only to pay the bills. Most of those people don’t even make that much money!
If I had a choice I would lean in to my family.
I would not work.
I would make cookies from Pinterest so my kids could bring them for every holiday and do laundry to alleviate the mountains I now have in my house. I would make tutus, sew dresses and embroider superheroes onto all my son’s shirts. That isn’t my reality though.
My reality is I have to work to help support my family.
Which, I think, is why I can’t stand Sheryl Sandberg even more. How about coming out with a campaign to support the working mom?? I see so many support stay at home moms initiatives. Where is the campaign that says “I know you’re tired but you know not to complain about it because nobody wants to hear about it”? Where is the campaign that supports me because I work full time outside of the house AND run a house AND raise my children?!
No thanks Sheryl I’m too involved with raising my children and working to lean in!!!
I will NOT ban bossy!
The whole campaign itself seems so BOSSY!!
Ugh I can’t stand all this stuff. Banning the word bossy is NOT going to help remind my daughter that she can be a future leader, if I continue encouraging and praising her, she will know. It will be rooted into her soul how wonderful she is because I taught her about her amazingness.
Now back to all the hoopla about banning bossy here is what I am behind instead of #BanBossy
Shot@Life-Do you know that every 20 seconds a child in a developing country dies of a vaccines preventable death and people are more interested in banning A WORD!! I don’t care if the word can have a different meaning or what- get over it!
No Kid Hungry-How about we make sure children in America have food on the table. Let’s make sure their bellies are full before we worry if a word like Bossy will damage their future
Save the Children- Do you know what will happen to your child if disaster strikes? After Hurricane Katrina it was 6 months before the final child was reunited with their parents. Save the Children works to literally save our children! Do you think if we ban bossy it will save children after a tornado or flood ran through their home town?
Alex’s Lemonade Stand Foundation- childhood cancer is the leading cause of death for children under the age of 15 in the US. Will banning bossy help us find a cure for these children that NEED one?
March of Dimes-March of Dimes is an organization dedicated to improving the health of babies by preventing birth defects, premature birth, and infant mortality. Let’s fund research and advance screenings to deliver healthier babies. I bet those moms won’t mind the word bossy
There are people in the world with NO access to clean water, children dying of diarrhea and families that can’t afford to out meals on the table. Can we PLEASE talk about HOW we will help them instead of banning a word